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18 May 2010 @ 03:57 pm
self induced miscarriage, please help  
Hello everyone, I'm newbie here.

My period is 1 week late and the previous month period was so short (only 2 days usually 4 days)
I suffered early pregnancy symptoms so I took home pregnancy test,
and the result was positive (faint pink line).
This is my first pregnancy.

I and my long term partner never want to get married and have a child.
We usually have sex carefully, well...sh*t happened.

Unfortunately, in my country, abortion is ILLEGAL.
There are illegal abortion clinics here, but since they're illegal,
There's always a chance of medical malpractice
and I do not know where those clinics located.

So I took herbal abortion method from here
I started bleeding on the 1st day until today.
The bleeding is different with my usual menstruation, the blood is darker and smellier.

The questions are:
How can I know that the tissue already completely gone?
The abortion successful? That I'm not pregnant anymore without USG?
Is there any other DIY method to do abortion?

Thank you in advance.
Current Mood: confusedconfused
start jeté-ing and stop je-terrorizingweareunderused on May 18th, 2010 12:35 pm (UTC)
there is a really great organization for women in your position: http://womenonweb.org

please check them out!
electric misfit love machineeyelid on May 18th, 2010 01:26 pm (UTC)
What country are you in? How hard-core is enforcement - if you go to a doctor and are checked out, will you potentially be in trouble if you later "miscarry"?

If not, I would go to a doctor and see if you can get an ultrasound or hcg tests to determine whether you're still pregnant.

If you are, I also recommend the womenonweb site linked to above. They can get you medication abortion pills. Herbal abortion, by contrast, is unproven, uncertain, and dangerous. There's no type of herbal abortion method that has actually been shown to work - some women say it worked for them, but they might have just miscarried normally (or not been pregnant in the first place), which is very common. For other women it doesn't work at all. It's much better to go with WOW if you can.
destroyer of clocksjocelina on May 19th, 2010 02:50 am (UTC)
I agree with the comments above -- if you think that you can do so without getting into trouble, I would definitely go to see a medical professional. You don't have to tell her/him about the parsley/vitamin C, just say that you got a positive result on a home pregnancy test but have started bleeding. Early miscarriage is super-common, and I would think under most circumstances s/he would never even realize that you'd been using herbal abortifacients.

If you are worried that a medical professional would be suspicious or report you or anything like that, though, then definitely check out the group that weareunderused and eyelid mentioned. They can help you make sure that you're safe and healthy.

I hope everything works out -- if you have other questions or want to talk, we're here. :)
hapsary on May 19th, 2010 08:34 am (UTC)
Dear Ladies, Thank you very much for your support! Based on your info, I consulted to WOW and requested for sponsorship because I can only afford to donate around 27 euros (my currency has very low value). Hopefully they approve my request :) I'm in Indonesia, South East Asia. If you ever went to Bali, well it is an island part of Indonesia. Here 'common' doctors/clinics don't want to examine unmarried pregnant woman, furthermore if she asks for abortion. Coz their medical practice can be terminated by government and they will be imprisoned. Maybe if my request is not approved by WOW, I will search for 'illegal' abortion clinic, but it is in "GREY" area, there's no assurance. I don't know ....
electric misfit love machineeyelid on May 19th, 2010 10:53 pm (UTC)
Here 'common' doctors/clinics don't want to examine unmarried pregnant woman

that's terrible... argh.

Has your bleeding continued?