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17 April 2012 @ 02:51 am

This morning my boyfriend and I got in a fight. I brought up something I read that an anti choice person wrote on Tumblr about how the man should have a say in abortion. I told my boyfriend that this person is an idiot for writing such garbage. He actually disagreed with me. It really really pissed me off. He had never said this opinion before I had my abortion and I always assumed he felt the same way I did?

Is this a stupid thing for me to be mad about? I know it's kind of a matter of opinion. He tried to argue with me that if a woman chooses to have a kid that the guy doesn't want, he has to pay child support. So for some reason, because of this, a man should have a say in if a woman has an abortion or not.

In my opinion, it is my body this fetus is living off of for 9 months. My body that the fetus will come out of. My choice. Am I in the wrong? 

Current Mood: annoyedannoyed
Among the Chaoseien_herrison on April 17th, 2012 04:48 pm (UTC)
In my mind, people can have all the 'say' they want, but when it comes down to it the final decision (abortion or carrying to term) should be made by the person who is pregnant. No one is obligated to listen to views, let alone take them in to consideration -- sure, if you have a high risk pregnancy you could hear the doctor saying that they believe the best thing would be to abort because carrying to term has a high chance of killing you, but in the end you can still say that you'd continue the pregnancy. It's eighteen years of writing off a check or having money automatically taken away vs. nine months of pretty much giving your body over to another human, with all the effects and medical care that comes with it.

I don't think it's a stupid thing to be mad about -- I'd be furious if my partner was of the opinion that if he really wanted a child, he felt that my mental/physical health and wellbeing meant less to him than a baby. I know I'm biased because of my phobia (and how I've reacted and how my partner has seen me react, and hypothetically would want to force me through that for a baby), but still...