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30 August 2012 @ 10:24 pm
 
So I just had my first appointment with Planned Parenthood and it turns out I'm 7 weeks 1 day, just slightly past the deadline for the medical abortion. I was admittedly upset when the lady told me this during my ultrasound, because it was what I wanted. It seemed less invasive, and being in the privacy of your own home surrounded by comfort seemed the better choice. But then I sat down with a nurse who reassured me she'd choose surgical if she were in my situation and reminded me that it was "less than a 10 minute procedure."

I've been stressed out since Monday when I found out I was pregnant (3 positive tests later and me almost not believing it) and it doesn't help that my boyfriend doesn't quite 'get' it. He's very supportive and I'm lucky to death that he doesn't feel the way my parents do about the procedure; but sometimes I feel like it's impossible for anyone else to grasp the situation. And sometimes I feel alone and angry because of it.

I'm not ashamed at ALL, nor do I feel any guilt or am unsure of my decision. But I am really nervous. As nice as the nurse was and all the PP staff, I still don't really know what to expect when I go in for surgery Tuesday. I'm hoping some of you lovely ladies can help me with your experiences.. and advice, to help me not wig out so much.
 
 
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inne: pic#92443628inne on August 31st, 2012 02:56 am (UTC)
I was very scared of surgical abortion. I was specifically terrified of pain since I had had an IUD in the past and found insertion *extremely* painful. But the only painful part of the whole thing turned out to be the vaginal ultrasound. For the actual abortion I was given a huge dose of ibuprofen and twilight sedation (fentanyl + valium) and didn't feel a thing. I was also so out of it that I have no memory of most of it. God, those are amazing drugs, I've never felt more calm in my life. Afterwards I felt fine within 15 minutes and had no after effects aside from cramping if I tried to lift something heavy.

At the clinic I went to the procedure was going in for a short counselling session to make sure that I really wanted to have an abortion and that it was my own choice, then an ultrasound, and then a few minutes later came the abortion. I think the whole thing took less than an hour.

Women can have a big range of experiences with twilight sedation, but it is very common to not feel much or anything and to not remember afterwards. I also told them that I was very nervous about pain and asked for every single medication they were able to give me.

If I had to get an abortion again I would not be anxious about the procedure at all.

I hope things turn out well for you.
porcelain.: pic#45268520polkadotmurder on August 31st, 2012 06:23 pm (UTC)
Thank you - that is reassuring! I don't know if what I opted for is 'twilight', but it is a mix of drugs.. one of them is called Versed which helps me forget the procedure. The lady said it should help me remain calm and that a lot of people choose this option because they won't remember much afterward. I also liked the idea that I'll still be conscious and not totally out of it.
The Bodhisattva of Kickin' Ass: bad habitrackletang on September 2nd, 2012 06:38 pm (UTC)
I had an abortion with just valium and it was okay for me. But! Medical trigger warning!

I broke my elbow a few years ago and was on fentanyl and versed when they tried to reset it unsuccessfully before they realized it wasn't just dislocated. Apparently I was joking around the whole time. So if you get that, and you're lucky to have similar chemistry to me, you'll be fine. And I bet you'll be fine anyway. Take care.
[LISA] No Ka Oimorning_stand on August 31st, 2012 03:01 am (UTC)
I had two medical abortions at past 8 weeks, between 8 and 9, at Planned Parenthood. I wonder if it varies by location?
porcelain.: pic#45268520polkadotmurder on August 31st, 2012 06:17 pm (UTC)
The nurse told me it does vary by location and state. The place I was going to call initially allows it up to 9 weeks, and even PP's website stated that they can do it up to 9. It was a little confusing.
Miss Awesome: pic#80348125in_the_eyes_of on August 31st, 2012 04:21 am (UTC)
I had a surgical abortion earlier this month, I was about 12 weeks pregnant due to IUD failure. I wish I would have known earlier because I as well, was interested in the medical abortion.

I wasn't nervous about the procedure and I knew 100% that I needed/wanted to go through with it. The receptionist that I spoke to attempted to make the procedure sound like unicorns and rainbows. I chose not to have anything for pain/sedation, aside from a "numbing" injection to the cervix which was absolutely pointless. The worst part of the entire situation, aside from waiting (several hours of waiting), was the dilation process. I'm not going to lie or sugar coat it... it fucking sucked. It was by far the most painful thing I've experienced. I would consider myself to have a high tolerance for pain... IUD insertion was nothing, I've had broken bones, etc... nothing even comes close. Now... everyone is different, so I hope you're not going to be turned off by "horror stories."

My biggest complaint is that I had my abortion on August 9th... and I'm still bleeding. I'll go maybe one random day with absolutely no bleeding and I think I'm in the clear and then... SURPRISE, it's back. Waiting the two weeks until you can insert anything into the vagina was terrible, I hate pads. I was so excited to be able to use tampons/menstrual cup.. but the bleeding is really getting old at this point.
theskyyends: cautiontape gagatheskyyends on August 31st, 2012 01:29 pm (UTC)
have you called the clinic? because its unusual to bleed that long. take care of yourself
Miss Awesome: pic#80348125in_the_eyes_of on August 31st, 2012 05:58 pm (UTC)
The clinic told me and gave me papers that said I could have off and on bleeding for up to 6 weeks after the procedure. I also read similar things online; however, I've read a lot that people bled for a few days and were good to go. It's also very possible that there was a period mixed in during that time but I honestly couldn't tell any difference.

I will be making an appointment with Women's Health and Wellness next week because I need to discuss ordering another IUD and I want to talk with my doctor about scheduling a tubal as well.
theskyyendstheskyyends on August 31st, 2012 06:04 pm (UTC)
you poor dear, like i said, take care of yourself. meant it out of concern
theskyyends: lady gaga bad romance stilltheskyyends on August 31st, 2012 01:28 pm (UTC)
I've had both. Yes the medical one can be done at home but to be honest it was incredibly painful and scary to me. I was up and around later that day but during, man, scary. The surgical one will take you out for a day but thats pretty much sleeping off the sedation. Afterwards you feel as though you're on your period physically for about a week to 9 days depending on your body. But its pretty quick and very painless
leskay: pic#113396407leskay on September 1st, 2012 02:19 am (UTC)
I've had two surgicals and I'd absolutely pick a surgical again. A medical is PAINFUL; a surgical is seriously so minor, not painful, no big deal physically. You'll be okay, I promise. <3
~morpheus0013 on September 2nd, 2012 05:37 am (UTC)
While I respect your experience, I found my surgical far more painful and traumatic than either of my medical abortions.

The pain from a medical DOES vary a great deal from woman to woman, and I only speak up because I hate to see women potentially scared off of having a medical when it can really be the better option for certain situations and personalities.
leskay: pic#113396407leskay on September 2nd, 2012 01:11 pm (UTC)
Fair enough. Were you under twilight anesthesia for the surgical? It sounds like probably not and that could certainly be a big factor. I was so I felt zero pain during and none after either. My only experience with medical is second hand but the friends of mine that had medical had very painful experiences and I think that's common and someone needs to be prepared for that if they choose that route. I absolutely agree it's the "right" choice for some women though because of the privacy, being less invasive, and the other reasons of course you know as you chose one.
~morpheus0013 on September 2nd, 2012 05:36 am (UTC)
I've had two medicals and a surgical. I would not choose to do a surgical again--BUT that's me. Everyone was very kind throughout the whole surgical process, and there were no complications at all. It was not a bad choice, it just wasn't my ideal. The anxiety you're feeling is totally normal, particularly since you went in expecting to be able to proceed in one direction and now have to proceed in another.

It will be over very quickly, and you'll get through it, I promise. <3